Take care of yourself so you can take good care of your baby.

Having a new baby is a joyous life-changing event, true. But life changes often come with difficult transitions as well — childbirth in particular. Becoming a new mother can be overwhelming. Suddenly you have a demanding little person to take care of, you’re exhausted, your body has been battered by delivery, you’re struggling with breast feeding — add to that a few other life matters that need your attention.

Hormones are also still in flux so all these factors contribute to the baby blues that many new mothers experience. What’s the best way to ride it out? How do you know if it’s already post-partum depression?

If you just gave birth your emotional state can vary widely. One minute you feel overwhelmed and anxious, then weepy with happiness, and then, out of nowhere, resentful your partner is at work and you’re stuck at home.

These mood swings are expected. However, many women report being overwhelmingly sad. Some even feel a sense of disconnect with the baby or fear of what lies ahead. These feelings are also normal, but should be watched closely in case a more serious depression develops.

Kicking The Baby Blues

Your body is still recovering from the sudden drop in hormones, and there are still lifestyle upheavals to get a grasp on. Maybe motherhood is not the romanticized image in your head or perhaps you still don’t feel a connection with your baby. Maybe you can’t stand looking at your body in the mirror. Whatever it is, try these tips to lift your spirits:

Get some fresh air. Even if it’s just to run to the store or take a walk, taking in fresh air and taking a break from the mundane routine of diapers and feedings will help you clear your head.

Get dressed. Ah, the things you once took for granted! It will get easier, but yes, the long, hot shower will be more of a luxury during the first few of weeks. But you must find a way to clean up, even – gasp! – put on some makeup and fresh clothes that aren’t stained with spit up. This can help make you feel human once again.

Get help. Have your mother, mother-in-law, sister – someone! – come over, if not to help, then to just keep you company. Being isolated mothering a newborn can get you down. Just having someone to talk to and laugh with can do wonders for your mood.

Most moms shed the blues in a couple of weeks, but if your sadness persists, call your doctor. Postpartum depression (PPD) affects about 15 percent of women. Sometimes it sets in right after delivery, but it can take months or even a year to occur for other women. Due to fluctuating hormones and lifestyle stress, anyone is susceptible to PPD, but you’re at risk if you:

• Suffered from depression in the past
• Have severe PMS
• Have a family history of depression
• Felt sad and depressed during the pregnancy
• Had a complicated labor and/or delivery
• Have a sick baby

If you feel you’re at risk, talk to your doctor about taking preventative measures. Signs it could be postpartum depression, not just baby blues, include:

• Loss of appetite
• Long crying spells
• Feeling hopeless or out of control
• Fear of touching the baby
• Little or no concern about your appearance
• Inability to sleep or excessive sleep
• Disturbing thoughts that scare you

If your symptoms last for more than two weeks, talk to your doctor about your options. There is hope for you. PPD has treatments that are safe for breastfed infants.

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