So what’s to expect – in the bedroom – when you’re expecting?

Even with that growing belly occupying more space, there should be room for romance. Sex during most pregnancies is safe. On top of that, those extra hormones can even give your sex life a boost. Multiple orgasms anyone? It’s a hot topic, and questions about sex and pregnancy abound. We have the answers… uncensored!

Is it really okay to have sex? My husband thinks he might hurt the baby.

If your doctor has determined no pregnancy complications, you can continue to have an active sex life. A penis won’t harm or traumatize the fetus. No matter how well-endowed, it won’t even reach your uterus! Your husband also can’t break your water bag. Thrusting motions will not disturb your little bun. These are all common misconceptions.

If you notice some bleeding after sex, consult your doctor as soon as possible. But do note that pregnancy increases blood flow in the cervix and sometimes this can cause light spotting after intercourse.

When should sex be avoided?

Here are some typical reasons why doctors will advice a pregnant woman not to have sex:

• a history of premature birth or labor;
• placenta previa – when the placenta is covering the cervix;
• when there is spotting (blood on your underwear) and a cause has yet to be determined;
• when the mother or her partner have a sexually-transmitted disease.

How about oral sex and masturbation?

If your doctor says you’re okay to have intercourse, you’re clear for oral sex and masturbation. You should skip cunnilingus  if your husband has a mouth sore – it might be the herpes virus. He should also avoid the blowing-into-the vagina move. This can lead to an air embolism. Women are more prone to this when pregnant since blood circulation is stronger in the cervix.

I found out we were pregnant a month ago. My friends say sex was good when they were pregnant. Not for me. I’m tired most of the time and I feel fat. What’s wrong?

In the first 3 months of pregnancy, most women face nausea, dizziness and fatigue. You are dealing with major changes inside and outside your body. It’s common to feel overwhelmed and not-in-the-mood. But there’s good news from Lou Paget, author of Hot Mamas: The Ultimate Guide to Staying Sexy Throughout Your Pregnancy and the Months Beyond, “Once you hit your second trimester, the nausea lifts and estrogen kicks in, which jump-starts your sex drive.” This is the time your friends were talking about. Many women say it’s during pregnancy when they experience multiple orgasms. Un-orgasmic women suddenly turn orgasmic. If you’re not there yet, your husband should understand that kissing and cuddling is all you can handle, for now.

My big belly makes our favorite position feel awkward. Any suggestions?

Here’s where you can get creative, maybe even kinkier than usual. The missionary position may not be ideal with your big belly. Besides, women should not be lying on their backs when their stomachs are already heavy. There are other options. Try woman-on-top, side-lying, spooning with rear-entry, or get on your hands and knees. Enjoy experimenting to see what works for you. You may end up having new favorite positions!

Talk About It

It’s important to communicate with your husband and make him understand what you’re going through. Same goes for him. You are about to have a child, your life – sex life included – is about to change. It doesn’t have to be for worse. Sometimes the bedroom acrobatics may stall, but when it revs up again, it could be for the better!

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